All of us (more or less) talk about our body. With friends, with relatives, with ourselves looking in the mirror. Unfortunately, however, when we do it, we don't always say good things, on the contrary, most of the time we do nothing but criticize ourselves harshly.
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All of us (more or less) talk about our body. With friends, with relatives, with ourselves looking in the mirror. Unfortunately, however, when we do it, we don't always say good things, on the contrary, most of the time we do nothing but criticize ourselves harshly.
Of course it has happened many times to me too, looking in the mirror, not to love what I saw, such as my slightly crooked nose or my almost non-existent butt.
I think it's normal, after all, to want to improve your physical appearance, if possible.
What I think is abnormal instead is when this sense of inadequacy it is strong enough to become an obsession, an obsession that pushes you to improve your appearance, hide your flaws or even harm yourself.
When most of the 60.000 thoughts that we do every day are focused on own flaws and about self-dissatisfaction then we have to do something. Because these thoughts are not only useless, they also ruin our health and all of life in general.
Even if I can't convince you to love your body unconditionally, in this article I will at least try to inspire you and give you some useful advice not to hate him.
Index
1) Don't be afraid of what others think of you, most of them are fighting the same battle as you
When we have a constant and annoying fear of what others might think of us we become hypersensitive to any environmental stimulus and a joking remark from a friend, a billboard with a smiling and happy skinny model, or even the simple glance of a passerby becomes a finger pointing at us.
But what you don't know - or tend to ignore - is that most people, just like you, are too busy think about herself and her flaws to notice you. So it can happen that when you go to a party or a disco, and you think everyone is looking at you and criticizing your image, they think exactly the same thing about you.
And after all, even if there are people who criticize your way of being, they certainly won't stop doing it just because you care.
Basically they do it pushed by frustration, because they hate themselves so much that they don't even want to think about it and they see in you all their defects that, consciously or unconsciously, they are convinced they have. You will understand this concept better in the fourth point.
You can't make everyone happy.
You have to satisfy your spirit, your authentic You.
Blair Singer
2.) Be yourself
Being yourself means be who you are, with your strengths and weaknesses and not living a life dictated by the expectations of others. It means not getting trapped by imaginary fears, "Mental saws" and anger at the way you look.
When you accept the wonderful person you are, you no longer need to cut, hide or cover to look more beautiful and cute.
Automatically, then, this acceptance of Self will allow you to appear better in the eyes of others.
Obviously with self-acceptance I do not mean that we should be neglected. As far as possible we must always respect and take care of our body, the temple of our soul. What I mean is that accept yourself as you are, is the first step towards any kind of improvement.
A very useful and interesting challenge is that of Louise hay (famous author of books and courses on positive thinking) who recommends repeating every day (for thirty days) in the morning or during the day, looking in the mirror: "I accept myself unconditionally now".
Many people may not believe the effectiveness of this practice, however, surely this statement is much more useful and empowering than .. "I hate myself and my body", "I am fat like a pig", "I am too much thin, nobody wants me "," With a body like this I will be alone for the rest of my life "etc.
3.) Use the time and energy to love those who value you as you are. Do not seek the approval of Tizio and Caio.
Putting on make-up, trying to look thin as a toothpick or killing yourself in the gym to look muscular and pumped up like the bodybuilders you see on TV and thus hoping to widen your circle of friends and get out more is a bit like going to find the love of your life in a seedy suburban bar.
By doing so you will tend to attract more interesting people to the way you appear than to the person you are. And are you sure you want to attract these people into your life? It wouldn't be better to be surrounded by people who love your way of thinking, Do they find in you qualities that resonate with theirs and do they like you as you are? Think about it..
Typically anyone who tries to using your physical appearance to seek the approval of others he does so because he mistakenly thinks he is full of flaws and has nothing better to offer. This is absolutely not true because in addition to defects, even if we are often not aware of them, we all have hidden and very powerful qualities.
“Turn your back on your flaws and turn your attention to your qualities, those you already have and those you want to acquire.
Courage can be replaced by firmness, beauty by charm, strength by dexterity, the ability to speak by the ability to listen, the intellectual air by awareness, physical perfection by self-confidence ".
Vadim Zeland
4.) Stop pointing and criticizing the faults of others. When you point your finger at one person, three others remain pointed at yours.
My thoughts about another human being often reflect more what is inside me than what the other person really is.
Kay Polak
When you criticize other people's bodies you are subconsciously comparing them to a perfect physique, which… ironically, is the same one you use to judge yourself harshly, right?
But unfortunately the perfect body does not exist, even if some people may seem perfect to us (the VIPs, the models, the girl or the boy you are in love with), most likely from their point of view it is absolutely not so, quite the contrary! You probably think more thoughts than we can imagine.
To free ourselves from the trap of this "Perfect physique"However, we must first of all free the others.
5.) Realize that you are not just your body
You have probably heard this speech before and from various spiritual masters who proclaimed and proclaim that we are not our body and maybe felt like this on the spot does not make much sense.
Open your eyes to reality and see yourself as one whole person body, mind and spirit, and not just as a piece of meat with a brain, it can give us a more balanced and liberating perspective of our being.
Our body does not exist only to serve itself and if you think this then also think that to read this article of mine all you need is a computer.
Apparently it is so but let me explain better.
The computer you have in your hands is not this article, this piece of awareness that I am trying to convey to you, but a tool through which, thanks to electricity and the internet connection, you are able to draw on this article.
If we neglect only one of these elements: computers, energy, the internet, we are no longer able to read this article. Right?
Same as last for our body.
So a great tip I can give you is that set aside 15 minutes from the very long 24 hours that we all have available every day to be in silence and meditate on nothing but your breath.
We can all learn to better appreciate the finer and more meaningful aspects of our person beyond the body and everyday life.
If the mind is wandering, bring yourself back to the present moment (the here and now) as often as you remember.
You will realize step by step that all the worries you had about your appearance and your body they begin to lose importance and you will begin to be more and more in tune with your qualities.
Just like after reading a good book.
Lots of Joy and Vitality
george louis
www.linfavitale.com
