If you are among the people who always try to please others even at the expense of their own ideals and well-being, perhaps you should try to find the reasons for this behavior of yours.
Don't store avocado like this: it's dangerousIf you are among the people who always try to please others even at the expense of your own ideals and well-being, perhaps you should try to research the reasons for this behavior of yours.
It is more than right to try to make other people happy, to be close to friends both in moments of joy and in difficult situations, but sometimes you risk losing control and becoming real flatterers rather than being selfless people who can help others in the right way and when it's really needed.
In some cases it is a behavior that arises in childhood when we try to make parents and teachers happy to be considered good and polite.
Growing up the problem comes when we always say yes to the requests of others even when we would rather say no for various reasons. In short, there are people who could take advantage of your good character and start exploiting you to their liking almost without you noticing.
It is not a question of becoming rude or unsociable people but of finding a balance between the needs of others and our own. Those who always try to please others risk losing their space and feeling, at some point, really lonely and unhappy, especially when they realize they are not reciprocated or at least thanked for their commitment.
Here are 5 things that those who are always trying to please others should remember.
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Index
Emotions of others
You should remember that you are not responsible for the emotions of others. The emotions of others shouldn't depend on you because in an ideal world everyone should be able to find happiness first of all within oneself. We must also remember that it is impossible to please everyone or to always make everyone happy. From this point of view it is important to learn to accept constructive criticism and to let destructive criticism and unsolicited judgment slip away.
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Handling
Unfortunately if you have a tendency to always say yes to others you risk becoming easily manipulated. It may be that some people start taking advantage of you and their demands on you become incessant. In this case you would risk being victims of constant torment, between messages and phone calls, and not having even a second of time left for you.
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A matter of choices
Also keep in mind that your choices will always be wrong or unfavorable for someone because on a practical level it is impossible to please all the people around us. The same action for one person can be fantastic while someone else might express a negative opinion. That's life.
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energia
Pay particular attention to do not become a slave to the needs of others because the risk of losing all your energy for those who do not deserve your help is always around the corner. Learn to make decisions that not only respect the feelings of others but safeguard yourself and your physical and mental energies.
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Selfishness
Some people always say yes to others because they don't want to appear selfish, while others do so out of a desire to feel at the center of attention at least for a few moments. These are the two sides of the coin of selfishness. Setting safe boundaries for your behaviors will allow you to relate to others in a more balanced way and to maintain good relationships and friendships even without always saying yes.
Marta Albè
