Toxic love and bad relationships, have you ever met any in your life? Love is toxic when, for example, it leads us to give up our friendships and our passions. When the story ends we risk being really alone.
Don't store avocado like this: it's dangerousToxic love and bad relationships, have you ever met any in your life? L'love it is toxic when, for example, it leads us to give up our friendships and our passions. When the story ends we risk being really alone.
Perhaps in your life you have known both happy couples and very problematic couples, where the prevarications were evident. When love becomes toxic it can lead to the end of a couple but some people adapt to the situation and the story continues even if it causes a lot of pain in at least one of them.
Toxic love prevents us from feeling happy and satisfied with the relationship we are experiencing. Love becomes toxic, for example, when one of the two is no longer able to accept the characteristics of the other person and her way of loving.
Sometimes love is toxic when one partner tries to change the other person so that it becomes as close as possible to the perfect image he has in mind to create a fairytale couple. Perfect love may not exist, but this does not mean that a bond must become toxic.
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One of the most useful secrets to take into account to make love last a long time is to find your balance as a couple and keep in mind that this balance can change over time.
How to recognize toxic love
Here are some features that allow us to recognize a toxic love that he is not making the couple grow but that he is hurting one and both partners.
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- Affective dependence
- Possession, not true love
- Frustration
- Illusions
- False promises
- Abandoning friendships
- Betrayal
- Violence
The fear of being alone can lead us to emotional and affective dependence. At some point we risk remaining connected to a person not because we really love them but only because we fear having to live in solitude if they leave us.
Affective addiction can be typical of those people who have had a difficult childhood, where parents did not usually show their affection openly. Love as a couple in these cases can turn into a great addiction.
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When we become possessive of our partner it is because maybe we don't really have confidence neither in him nor in our couple. This type of behavior could be related to a negative experience that we have been burned from in the past.
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In true love physical violence and other types of violence they must never find space. Neither must ever be a slave to the partner's will and respect in every situation must always be present.
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Beware of the situation where one partner asks the other to abandon their friendships and not to go out with some people anymore. The risk is to really lose friends in a short time and find yourself alone when the story is over. Our partner can never have the 'exclusivity' over us and cannot prevent us in any way from seeing our friendships.
How to find balance in love
Only you can assess if yours is a solid couple or if there is something wrong and you risk falling into the trap of toxic love, between possessiveness and emotional dependence. Remember that no one can ever force you to continue a relationship with one person. If you realize that this love is hurting you too much, it's probably time to move on.
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If, on the other hand, you think it is only a passing issue and that the problem can be solved, talk about it openly with your partner. If you can find the right balance for your couple, it means that at the base there may be a true love and not a toxic love.
In the case of serious episodes, between violence and disrespect, do not hesitate to cut ties with this toxic love and, if you need it, ask for help.
Marta Albè
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