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Life is ours alone, we must live it as we wish really not up to the expectations of others. Some people tend to please and please others by ceasing to live according to their desires and true passions.
Our life constantly becomes at the mercy of others when we cannot do without always say yes to their requests, even when those people don't really need us and are just using and manipulating us.
We would like to say no for once, when we realize that other people are taking advantage of us, but for the most varied reasons we fail to do so. So then we find ourselves spending our time following only the expectations and requests of others and not dedicating ourselves to what is good for us themselves.
It is right to help people who really need us but it is not right to let ourselves be chained by the constant requests of the opportunists. If we want to, we can do good to others to the best of our ability without denying ourselves and our desires.
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There is a further aspect of the matter. If we continue to follow the expectations of others in our life we will never succeed make our true dreams come true because we will always tend to be at the mercy of the opinions of the people by whom we feel observed and judged.
To live as we want we must stop listening to unsolicited judgments that others express about us, especially when it is not a question of constructive criticism but only of destructive words that only serve to humiliate us and not to our growth.
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We can always reflect on what others think of us, to draw something good for ourselves, but we must not let our life be conditioned by their judgment and their expectations.
To truly live as we wish we try to do not let ourselves be influenced excessively from what others expect of us and social conventions. Of course, it takes courage to make real change. The courage can be accompanied by the planning, to make things easier.
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How to find the courage to change your life
If you want to change your life, put pen to paper your project and with a good dose of courage you begin to make it happen. You need courage because in most cases the people around you will try to clip the wings of any new initiative, not out of lack or excess of affection towards you but because change scares them first of all.
Also beware of people who try to discourage you because they want to lower your self-esteem, steal your ideas or make yourself beautiful in the eyes of others by putting you in a bad light.
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Achieving our main goals in life without letting ourselves be dazzled or confused by the expectations of others is a real daily struggle but only in this way will we be able really live as we want.
This does not mean that we will become selfish or that we will run away from our duties but that simply our life will begin to flow in the direction of our dreams with great strength and determination.
Illustrations by Seng Soun Ratanavanh