How (and why) to start loving again after a great disappointment

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Elia Tabuenca García
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Those who have suffered for love know it. Recovering from a great disappointment can be a hard and difficult path, but starting to love and love again is not an impossible mission. We want to give you a message of hope.

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Those who have suffered for love know it. Recovering from a big disappointment can be a tough and difficult path, but to start loving and loving each other again it is not a mission impossible. We want to give you a message of hope.





When a love story ends, there are many variables that come into play and the questions that sometimes cannot be answered. Feelings, emotions but also practical issues come into play. There end of a love story sometimes it can lead to completely changing one's life, moving elsewhere, more or less deliberately losing friendships.

So why not take this opportunity, albeit a very difficult one, for start all over again? When a love story ends with arguments and quarrels, the situation becomes even more tragic. The detachment can be clear or after-effects can occur.

Anyone who has had a great disappointment in love, however, must get back in the game and feel ready to start over. It is not said that you have to run immediately in search of a soul mate, on the contrary. To start all over again, it is better to start from yourself. How?

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Try to think, first of all, that when a story ends it does not mean that you as unique and inimitable people have lost all your worth. It is precisely the time to rediscover this value and to make it shine.

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If your life as a couple was actually no longer as enjoyable as it was in the beginning or if you felt suffocated by your partner, now you can take back all your time and space. Have you made any sacrifices? Have you neglected a hobby, for example? Then perhaps you could start all over again from this passion that you had set aside and that could help you rediscover the joy of living.


The love we feel for ourselves depends first of all on us, not on others. And if in the future you want to start over and fall in love with another person, you will never have to forget it. Nobody can take away the esteem you have for yourself because it is yours alone and it depends only on you.


Remember: you are complete, capable people, full of emotions and desire to do even if and when you don't have a partner next to you.

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We fall in love with a person because at a certain moment in life we ​​are able to feel love within us. If we love each other - after a necessary period of sadness and 'mourning' - we can rediscover that love that lives within us and that will help us feel new and better people.

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Until we learn to love ourselves fully we may have a hard time fall in love with a new person making a clean sweep of the unpleasant memories of the past that haunt us. Comparisons with exes and with previous stories would always be around the corner.

The love we feel for ourselves depends first of all on us, not on others. And if in the future you want to start over and fall in love with another person, you will never have to forget it. Nobody can take away the esteem you have for yourself because it is yours alone and it depends only on you. In this regard, to speed up the healing process, we suggest the self-healing exercise that you will find in the article suffer for the love of the return direction blog.



Enjoy the freedom of being single, love each other, respect your timing and when the time is right - but only if you really want to - a new romance will come on the horizon.

Marta Albè

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