We often misinterpret the characteristics of our children, even going so far as to blame ourselves for not being (or having been) the right parents. The fact that children are very lively, restless, loud and rebellious, most of the time it has nothing to do with the education they have received but rather testifies to the fact that they are happy children!
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We often misinterpret the characteristics of our children, even going so far as to blame ourselves for not being (or having been) the right parents. The fact that children are a lot lively, restless, noisy and rebellious, most of the time it has nothing to do with the education they received but rather testifies to the fact that they are happy children!
Sometimes it can be exhausting to be struggling with a wild, loud and rebellious child but if we think that all this means that he is a healthy and happy being, we can probably better accept the consequences of so much energy.
We assume that children find themselves in a moment of their life in which everything is discovery and experimentation. The fact that they never stop, therefore, and that they are always full of enthusiasm is completely normal.
Every child wants to touch, learn, explore, he is curious by nature and also noisy. We should therefore try as much as possible not to limit them, even if obviously we adults, especially at the end of a day, do not particularly like being among loud noises, games of all kinds, endless chatter and general uncontrollability.
Probably the problem lies in the fact that we have forgotten how we were as children, our childhood, that enthusiasm, the desire to discover new things and the feeling of having an infinite energy that, inevitably, year after year (more or less) we have lost.
In short, we lack a bit of empathy towards children and towards those wonderful years in which we too were probably noisy and undisciplined but which now seem very far away.
All of this obviously does not mean that children should be left to do what they want. As we have already said in a previous article, to grow at their best they also need rules and habits.
Do we suffer from child phobia?
We are increasingly distant from the children we once were to the point that the so-called "child phobia" is spreading in all countries, especially in the West.
This situation has several implications: on the one hand people do not tolerate being enthusiastic about children, for example in clubs and restaurants (it is no coincidence that more and more places are born where children are not welcome), on the other it is thought that behind a very energetic child, who may cry often, there are bad parents.
We therefore forget about fundamental things, namely that it is completely normal and healthy for children to be enthusiastic and characterized by strong emotions that make them laugh rudely, scream but also squirm and cry.
A child who cries, for example at a restaurant or in a public place, attracts the attention and judgment of other people but this does not mean that it is the result of a bad education on the part of the parents even if it is what someone wants to do with it. to believe.
Il cry by the way it is a natural means of communication for children, that it bothers us and that we try to stem it in every way is a different matter.
Each child has his own personality and way of interacting, it is also a question of character: there are those who are quieter and those who are most restless, as well as those who sleep and those who do a little less.
Let us therefore try to be more empathetic towards children or of those parents who are struggling with more rebellious and energetic children. We let the little ones run, scream, make noise, play as much as possible so that they are more likely to be happy.
Finally, let us remember that, in adulthood, they will have plenty of time to savor the pleasure of silence and the comfort of sitting.
Read also:
- We teach children about happiness, not perfection
- 8 secrets to raising happy children
- Dutch children are the happiest in the world. Here because
