Children who get angry, with us, with grandparents, with their peers, for a contested game, an unsatisfied request or simply because their needs have not been fully understood. The basket of anger can help parents manage this mood in children
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Children that yes get angry, with us, with grandparents, with their peers, for a contested game, an unsatisfied request or simply because their needs have not been fully understood. The basket of anger it can help parents manage this state of mind.
Anger, an emotion that must be recognized
Like all other emotions, the anger it is not in itself positive or negative but parents and educators must help children to live it better and manage it. The tools for help the little ones to manage their emotions I am understanding and love.
The healthy emotional development of children depends above all on the parents, who will have to face everyday problems with the utmost tranquility and through dialogue, while making the child understand that there are limits and that emotions must not become too violent in their expression. .
Anger is an important emotion for children. Especially when they are very young, it is an integral part of their growth path.
In preschool age, it derives from their inability to express emotions, desires and needs in a complete way, or it is a feeling of inadequacy in the face of requests coming from the outside world, the difficulty in accepting one's limit and respecting the rules.
“This dimension is an integral part of prima childhood, like learning to walk and talk, it shows that the child is discovering his or her self. The fits of anger they help him overcome frustration. He is not always able to recognize, describe and express his feelings, but this emotional competence is an educable and very important learning. Giving a name to emotions, finding a space in which to express them is a precious opportunity to build a healthy ego, able to negotiate and to improve the ability to be in a group " explain the two educators, Laura Beltrami and Rossana Bernardinello.
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How to teach children to manage anger
Teaching children to recognize anger is the first step that must be taken with the help of parents and educators. Subsequently, this emotion must be isolated and consciously eliminated by the child. The latter often cannot explain in words what he feels.
To do to listen, the use of the jar of calm, thanks to which children, intrigued, prepare themselves to listen to what the parent or teacher has to say. The jar of calm is useful on those occasions when the child is feeling upset and needs to calm down.
Another way to explain to children what anger is is provided by readings, among which That anger! by Mireille D'Allance, which can also be read to children under 2 years and that uses the trash can system to defeat the anger that assails the protagonist of the story.
The goal is to ensure that the child becomes master of his emotions, is able to recognize and manage them.
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What is the basket of anger for
Il basket of anger it can be considered a ritual, a place of growth and discovery through play. It can help free and channel lit's energy, favoring an inner re-elaboration of events. In fact, the child first identifies the emotion, then learns to isolate it and literally put it away in the basket.
Whenever he feels anger, the parent or educator will have to invite the child to put in the basket a drawing or something, an object, that can remind him of the emotion he is experiencing at that moment.
Later, when he has calmed down, the objects or drawings will have to be taken to make the child remember and tell how he felt in different situations. In this way he is able to materialize anger and manage it better, because it becomes something concrete.
“The basket offers a place and a time in which to give voice to that volcano in the belly that can rarely be questioned after an eruption; tries to make the little ones more aware of their feelings by reading the signals provided by one's body; it involves them in a narrative and graphic reworking ”explain Beltrami and Bernardinello.
So let's see how to build it with children.
How to make the basket of anger at home
Take one box, un road, a small bag or container. or make it yourself using recycled materials, like ice cream sticks, for example.
Here are some examples:
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Ask the child to decorate it according to their taste, with colors, designs or stickers. Once made, it must be placed in a visible place in the house. Let the child choose the place to keep it, so he can take it himself.
As soon as the child gets angry, the parent can ask him to direct the anger towards the basket, however he likes.
At this point, the child is asked to close the box (or the basket), put it back in its place and forget about it. Once the anger has passed and the child is calm again, she will be able to communicate with him by helping him to understand the reason that led him to get angry.
READ also:
- HOW TO HELP CHILDREN TO EXPRESS AND MANAGE EMOTIONS BETTER
- INSIDE OUT: HOW TO IMPROVE OUR LIFE STARTING FROM THE 5 PRIMARY EMOTIONS
- MONTESSORI METHOD: HOW TO BUILD THE CALMING JAR
- THE JAR OF HAPPINESS: HOW TO CREATE IT AND USE IT
A useful method not only for children but also for adults. Have you already tried it?
