What are the questions emotionally intelligent people never ask? Here are 5 that they always avoid
Don't store avocado like this: it's dangerousThe holidays arrive and we meet at the table with friends and relatives, some welcome, others less so. Especially those who put forward from year to year questions that are inappropriate, willfully stinging or completely unaware but no less annoying.
They should come up with an etiquette of questions not to ask, which would be good to keep in mind whenever similar occasions arise. And not only. Because curiosity is fine, but also no rude questions. Which is not by chance the emotionally intelligent people, therefore those most predisposed to recognize, interpret and respond with empathy to their own emotions and those of others, they always avoid.
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Have you gained / lost weight?
There is nothing but talk of how wrong and dangerous body shaming is, or mocking someone for their physical appearance, yet asking, especially women, if they have gained or lost weight remains a great classic. Clearly these are completely inappropriate questions because the physical form of others is not a subject of debate. We learn to go beyond stereotypes and do not allow ourselves to be influenced by the usual aesthetic canons, weight does not define people.
How much do you earn?
It is true that in this delicate period we are all more concerned from an economic point of view and it is normal to want to talk about it with others. But in some circumstances, such as lunch or Christmas dinner, it risks being an off-limits topic. Not all people want to disclose their earnings, it is still a sensitive issue and of a private nature.
When do you plan to have children?
Deciding whether or not to have children is a completely private matter, on which no one has the right to express opinions. This is a decision that belongs only to those directly concerned, let us refrain from useless and unwelcome morals and suggestions. Not to mention that in some cases it does not depend on personal choices, but on other factors beyond one's will. But it remains a rude and inappropriate question in any case.
Not married yet?
Marriage is not an obligation and it does not make people more or less fulfilled than others. Asking such a question assumes that not being married is something abnormal but nowadays singleness is fortunately no longer a taboo. We can stay single into old age, without guilt.
When do you find a real job?
Asking a similar question or calling someone else's work a pastime is extremely offensive, judgmental, rude, inappropriate. Failure to clearly catalog another person's profession does not authorize us to label it. Among other things, it denotes little knowledge of today's world of work, which is teeming with unusual professions that are difficult to categorize in the "great classics".
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