All adults dealing with children need to remember that pursuing perfection does not lead to happiness.
Don't store avocado like this: it's dangerousFor parents it is normal want the best from their children, but all adults who have to do with children, starting with mothers and fathers, must remember that pursuing perfection does not lead to happiness.
It is important that children are happy, not that they are perfect, especially since perfection does not exist. So, we educate children for happiness, not perfection.
We must never confuse the will of give children a good education and the desire for them to become perfect. If parents demand too much, their children could suffer. It is not certain that all children can become top of the class or football champions because everyone has their own talents and abilities.
Parents' task is recognize the true talents, abilities and skills of children to support and encourage them in order to help them grow better by cultivating their true passions.
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Sometimes parents try to give their children everything that they were the first to have as children, for economic reasons or because of the circumstances in which they lived. But right now it is not certain that children's dreams correspond exactly to wishes that parents wanted to fulfill in the past.
Children are likely to suffer from low self-esteem if they find that they cannot meet their parents' expectations.
Try to educate children perfectly it can lead them to feel sad and frustrated, unable to achieve the goals that their parents would expect from them. Perhaps these children have dreams and desires that are very different from what their parents are trying to impose on their lives.
Respecting the peculiarities of children, listening to their voice and worrying only that they are really happy: this explains in a few words the most important task of parents.
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Children have every right to have a happy and free childhood, without having to feel in competition with the adult world.
Some parents may dream of having brilliant children, capable of achieving the best results in all school subjects. But is this really such an important aspect in life? It is not even said that i good grades in school they are a guarantee that children will have a career in work in the future, if that is what parents want for them.
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Perfectionism can become dangerous, undermine children's self-esteem, discourage them, fill them with fears and make them truly suffer.
Better to teach children that each person is unique and unrepeatable with their own characteristics and capabilities.
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Since children mimic the behaviors of adults, parents should pay attention to their attitude towards themselves. If a parent is very self-critical and severe with himself, even the child by imitation could behave in the same way and find himself never feeling up to par and living unhappily.
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Parents should try to always appreciate the good results of their children and at the same time not to humiliate them in the face of failure, because something that goes wrong in school or elsewhere is already a life lesson.
So let's teach the children that being happy in life is much more important than being perfect, because the search for absolute perfection prevents us from living with a smile on our lips and risks making us lose sight of what really matters.
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