Beware of those who try to manipulate us with flattery and flattery. In fact, an attempt at manipulation can hide under a praise or a positive comment that is expressed, for example, only to obtain a favor.Don't store avocado like this: it's dangerous
Beware of anyone trying to manipulate us with flattery and flattery. In fact, an attempt at manipulation can hide under a praise or a positive comment that is expressed, for example, only to obtain a favor.
We all probably love being told how good we are and how well we do our tasks in daily life. Just by exploiting this weakness some people may try to manipulate us.
At times perhaps you have let yourself be carried away by these flattery without opening your eyes and without being aware of the true intentions of those who have addressed them to you.
It can happen that people with low self-esteem fall into this trap more easily. They think that commendations are truly recognition of their merits because they tend to live by seeking the approval of others.
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How to recognize a manipulative lure
Pay attention to it. When a compliment is immediately followed by a request that you can hardly refuse at that point, you may find yourself faced with a attempted manipulation.
The fear of answering 'no' to a request following a compliment is linked to the fact of being able to disappoint the person who is addressing us.
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This type of manipulation is not always easy to recognize. A true friend would never put it into practice.
The suggestion is to pay attention to this type of behavior especially in relation to people who are mere acquaintances and who may try to take advantage of you to gain some advantage for themselves. Manipulative flattery can also be present in the workplace.
If a apparently unmotivated compliment comes suddenly and is followed by a request that you might consider uncomfortable, beware of the possibility of manipulation.
How to avoid manipulators
We try to always keep your eyes open. If we do not have total trust in someone, if we suspect his sincerity, if we fear he may exploit us, let's move away and try not to listen to his compliments and flattery from him anymore. These are not truthful words but only compliments expressed to try to achieve a certain purpose or advantage for oneself.
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Obviously this it doesn't mean we shouldn't trust anyone but simply that we must find the strength to expose people who try to manipulate and exploit us.
Only with time and experience will we learn not to be fooled by words spoken only to exalt our ego.
To enrich and improve our life we must not depend on the praise or the judgments of others, even when they are negative. We must learn to live authentically and to strengthen our self-esteem to no longer be victims of exploitation and manipulation.
Illustrations by Igor Morski