Nursery and insertion: how to drive away anxieties (of parents and children) in 5 steps

    Entering the nursery is a delicate moment for children and parents. Here are some tips on how to best deal with it

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    September synonymous with school. And, for the little ones, those who still live on pacifiers and diapers, it is synonymous with nursery school. And already, because willy-nilly, among us who have children more and more later and consequently the grandparents who now can't even lift a finger anymore, inclusion in a nursery is the only solution if you work in two and if you don't want to look for one baby sitter.

    So, backpack on your shoulder, you already know one thing: the baby boy, even the most mammon, is certainly more ready than you to "face" the unknown that lies behind the door of the nest. Yes, because, although you do not want to convince yourself, in there he finds the Eldorado under his feet, a magical conglomeration of entertainment, the possibility of playing, playing and still playing without anyone holding him back.

    And don't pay any attention to that wet little face that will make you on the entrance: as soon as you raise your heels (desperate), he will rejoice as never before, his eyes will shine at the majestic vision of a "playroom" all to themselves. Of course, for some it will take a little longer, but for all the same is true: the nest is not a prison.

    Anxiety and uncertainty? Sure, that's normal. But they, the little brats aged 3 and under, know more than the devil and what I can tell you from experience is that they do everything in the nursery except suffer your absence. This is the stark truth. Obvious, a fundamental role is played by the environment and educators, but qualified and very sweet people with your children it is really not difficult to find them.


    What is there to know, then, for your beloved child (and yourself!) To start nursery as calmly as possible? Here are some answers.


    1. Prepare it first. A few weeks before the nursery starts, it might be useful to tell your child what is about to happen and the many good news that await him. In the library you will surely find some story that is right for you to read together. Like all things, moreover, do not convey anxiety or fear, always express positive thoughts and put a nice smile on your face.

    2. Many nurseries provide the so-called "insertion"And many others provide for the inclusion with a lot of mom in tow. If for the former it is simply a matter of leaving the child alone in kindergarten for a certain number of hours a day to let him "acclimatize" slowly, the latter give rise to that loop of "mammaRESTAconmeplease! " that really never seems to end. In short, in my opinion, being together with your baby within the four walls of the nest for two or three hours a day is not really that effective, but it is "deluded" that this will be the way it will be for the rest of the months. But anyhow: if it suits you (and if they give you all these permits at work), so be it e it's not necessarily a drama. The important is do not rush in no sense once a certain method has been adopted).

    3. separation anxieties. It happens, oh yes if it happens. It also happens (and I tried to tell you before) if there was previously a long and gradual insertion. In short, it may happen that the puppy sticks to your legs and refuses to enter. They are the classic separation anxieties and they don't have anything transcendental, so do not feel guilty and, especially, do not give up. Let him calm down but then go away, reassuring him that you will come back anyway (the call to return is very important and the experts say it is useful to always repeat it). A wonderful thing is there speed with which they learn to manage it by themselves ...



    Nursery and insertion: how to drive away anxieties (of parents and children) in 5 steps

    4. THE'object of consolation. Or what psychologists call "transitional object". Whether it's a pacifier, a doll or a toy taken at the last second from the bedroom, don't deny him to take it with him. That object there will have an inestimable value for the brat, even if it remains closed all the time in the backpack, and will be consoling in the most critical moments.

    5. God the diseases! Cross of the most apprehensive mothers and omnipresent grandmothers, know that colds, fever or intestinal viruses are very frequent and routine things, especially during the first year. And if before at home the baby had never got sick, it is only because now the other children who attend the kindergarten, the teachers, the classrooms and the pure games are full of new bacteria for his immune system, which must only have time. to adapt. All of this will only make him stronger.

    That said, rest assured. There is no nursery manual, much less that of the perfect parent. Do with and for your children what you think best, but never lose sight of the people they are and their needs and, above all, never stop explaining every single thing to them and smiling. All time.

    Germana Carillo

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