Mothers: more and more sun, more and more tired. An unheard cry for help

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Elia Tabuenca García
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Mom, today more than ever it is a very difficult job. We live in a society that is not fit for mothers, where we still lose our job when a child is born. Today mothers are tired and often have neither the time nor the right to complain



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Mom, today more than ever it is a very difficult job. We live in a society that is not fit for mothers, where we still lose our job when a child is born. Today mothers are tired and often have neither the time nor the right to complain.



Tired, very tired. Without ever a minute of respite. In the face of those who manage to carve out a small space for themselves, with hours and hours of organization behind them, there are those who instead dedicate themselves exclusively to the family, to the children, both for necessity and for the love of doing it.

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Working mothers have no right to be tired

Working mothers end up having the weight of everything on their shoulders: caring for their children, managing and organizing their time, the house, the nutrition of the family. Although a father may be present, the main role continues to be that of the mother.

Sometimes you can't delegate, you can't ask for help because the parents are physically distant, elderly or working. Others, if you work, once you return home the only thought is to dedicate your time to your children, playing, reading, cooking with them. A precious moment, one of the most anticipated of the day for many of us.

At work, often, when you become a mother, it seems that the expectations of us increase. And after all, it is hard for a mother to return her after just 3 months from the birth of her child. Today the law even offers the possibility of staying at work until the end of the pregnancy. It is a choice that a woman can decide whether or not to make, but this once again demonstrates the lack of importance given to such a delicate moment.

Non-working mothers live in conflict

There are those who choose not to work, to devote all their time to their children because they think there is nothing more beautiful. A noble decision to be respected, even if often criticized. Sometimes it is the spouse or partner himself who does not understand the importance of this choice, not a sacrifice for the mother but a change of life driven by love for their children.



Let us not delude ourselves. Even a full-time mom never has time for herself. All her attentions are absorbed by the commitments of the children, by their care. Their needs become ours, often forgetting our being a woman even before being a mother.

Among the mothers who do not work, however, there are also those who have not had the good fortune to choose but who have been literally discharged once the pregnancy is ascertained or after the birth of a child. Mothers, women to whom it was their right to be workers, to contribute financially to the needs of the family. Mothers who feel a burden, useless, who are unable to accept the fact that they have no guilt.

We must not be ashamed to admit that we are tired!

Tired moms, it is undeniable, we all are. If there is one thing we should do, at least every now and then, it is to stop and reflect, to admit our tiredness, to let off steam with friends, with a family member, with her husband or partner, and why not cry.

On the one hand, we suffer from not being able to carve out some time for ourselves. On the other hand, this thought exacerbates the feelings of guilt towards children, which for us are not and will never be a burden.

We learn to externalize our discomfort, our feelings, not to complain but to let off steam and try to find a way to get back on top.

Sometimes a little is enough: a ready meal, extra help around the house, but also a good night's sleep or an evening with friends. Even less is needed: an hour dedicated to us, to read a book on the sofa or to savor the silence.


Let's start looking inside, let's not get used to tiredness, let's learn to love ourselves in order to better love those around us.


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