Who has never happened to feel, even if only for a moment, alone? Maybe even among the people, yet alone, alone. It sure isn't a good feeling. In addition, when loneliness is "suffered" for a long time it affects our psychological well-being and can cause depression; shyness, poor social skills, distrust of others or disappointments can make the situation worse
Don't store avocado like this: it's dangerous
Who has never happened to feel, even if only for a moment, alone? Maybe even among the people, yet alone, alone. It sure isn't a good feeling. Plus, when the solitude is "suffered" for a long time affects our psychological well-being and can cause trough; shyness, poor social skills, distrust of others or disappointments can make the situation worse.
The good news is that we can take advantage of this feeling to know, to rediscover our inner richness. jacqueline an, in his book L'Esprit de solitude (Ed. La Renaissance), affirms that solitude
“It offers us the opportunity to see ourselves, to pass from a conditioned and dependent 'me' to a free and responsible 'me'. Loneliness is our maturity ”.
Of course, it is also valid in the case in which it is chosen: the esoteric wisdom expressed in thearchetype of the Hermit (Major Arcanum of the Tarot) reminds us that moments of pause, withdrawal, introspection and regeneration are useful to rediscover that (ours) inner wisdom which will then serve to move more consciously and actively in normal daily social life.
What strategies to use when you feel alone?
First of all, it is essential to clarify what you would like to do differently, what kind of relationships you would like to have (it may be useful to use a notebook to "stop" your thoughts, aspirations, wills, needs in black and white).
Once you have indicated your own target - without any limit set by the usual rationality - the right question is: what currently prevents me from / what do I need to feel good with people, to achieve and live my goals?
Indeed, it is always necessary to start from oneself: "The responsibility is ours, not that of others", Recalls the Kelen. This work allows us to bring out personalized “anti-solitude strategies”: the right ones for us.
To learn more read also:
THE PORCUSPINE DILEMMA: WHAT IS THE RIGHT DISTANCE TO KEEP WITH OTHERS?
LONELINESS: THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PHRASES TO LEARN TO LOVE IT
HOW TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE (THE GOOD SIDE OF LONELINESS)
6 good anti-loneliness habits
But there are gods behavior that are good for everyone, like these 6 good anti-loneliness habits:
sleep well: lack of sleep or bad sleep not only worsen our mood and our emotional states (producing behaviors that in fact tend to alienate others) but induce further self-isolation
Read: 10 SIMPLE RULES TO REST A LOT, EVEN SLEEPING LITTLE
take care of yourself: indulge in those little pleasures that are often overlooked because "they don't change your life anyway"
take care of others: change your perspective and ask yourself how you can be useful to others or to your community in general (for example by offering help, taking care of a problem in your neighborhood, etc.)
fight negativity: personal beliefs or critical judgment can distance us from others, make us feel disappointed by experiences; learning to recognize when our "negative approach" is activated allows us to contrast it, a little at a time, with a different openness, tolerance, flexibility ...
Read: HOW TO REMOVE NEGATIVE ENERGIES FROM YOUR HOME
create new opportunities for meeting: consciously choosing situations that give the opportunity to socialize, meet people and interact with them (eg: going to the gym, signing up for a group trip, attending a voluntary association or taking an English course, etc.)
cultivate relationships gradually: acquaintances become contacts, attendance increases the possible confidence and sharing, greater sharing and attendance can prepare friendship; friendship grows by gradual and successive levels of intimacy, which depends and varies on people. Being in a hurry to share, tell, become staff is practically never a good strategy: people easily run away.
Anna Maria Cebrelli