Learning to say no: here's why it's important (and how to do it)

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Carlos Laforet Coll
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Are you among the people who always tend to say yes to others to please them? As we have already explained to you, making everyone happy is impossible, you have to learn to set priorities and set aside some time for yourself to recharge yourself with new energy.


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You are among the people who tend to always say yes to others to please them? As we have already explained to you, making everyone happy is impossible, you have to learn to set priorities and set aside some time for yourself to recharge yourself with new energy.




One of the hardest things for some people to do is own learn to say no because sometimes saying yes is simpler and creates fewer problems at least in appearance. In fact, saying no may be the best way to avoid further and unexpected complications in the future.

When we decide to say a 'yes' or a 'no' we must first of all be aware of what are our priorities of the moment and we must also learn to say 'no' in the right way to be truly incisive.

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To be kind

Say no it doesn't mean being rude or rude, in fact, we can learn to say no in a firm but at the same time gentle way. We live in a culture where always being super busy seems like an inevitable rule. With a no we can instead take back our time and think about our real priorities. Say phrases that are easy for others to accept, such as:

  • "Right now I have other priorities, so I can't commit to something new."
  • "I don't feel like the right person for this task, you could turn to ..."
  • "Now is not the right time for me, can we hear from you later?"

Follow your intuition

Follow our intuition helps us to understand when it is really time to say no with respect both for oneself and for other people. If you feel uncomfortable just at the thought of doing a certain task or taking on a certain assignment, you will probably feel that way when you accept it and have to finish it.



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There are always alternatives

If you don't feel like saying a sharp and categorical no, accompany it with alternatives that they can still help whoever is addressing you a request in which you would not want to be personally involved. Set boundaries, make suggestions, and maybe you could still be of help more profitably in the future even if you won't be right now.

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Be realistic

Perhaps we always tend to say yes to the people we admire because we want to be accepted by them but sometimes we don't take into account what our commitments are already undertaken and we run out of time for our priorities. When we are not interested in a certain situation or issue, let's walk away immediately and we say no without creating misunderstandings.

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We cannot please everyone

To please everyone is impossible. Your friends, family and colleagues will understand this, especially if they know that you are people who always go out of their way to help out when needed. It may happen that in some situations you are not available - not out of spite, but simply for lack of time. It happens to everyone and therefore that's okay, as long as there is sincerity at the base.

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Overcoming fear

We can be afraid to say no because we fear being excluded from others but we must understand that when we do not have much time available, we must dedicate ourselves only to those experiences that can really bring a benefit in our life. Let's think about it and if it's not worth it, let's refuse.



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Respect our wishes

Having to decide to accept or decline a proposal allows us to understand what our true desires are, which projects we really want to accomplish in life and what we can't wait to dedicate ourselves to make our dreams come true.

Release the pressure

When we feel under pressure due to the constant requests we must absolutely learn to say no. When we have a choice, we try to do it to our advantage. Sometimes having a free evening just to rest a little can really be a cure-all that will allow us to do our best in everything else.

Give it a chance

When we decline an assignment because we are not interested, because we do not have time or for other reasons we finally can give someone else the chance to experiment with a new task. There are certainly people who will be able to replace us and do that job better simply because maybe at this moment they have more time available than us.

Establish boundaries

If you realize that you are facing someone who would like to take advantage of you, set boundaries right away and try to carry on this good habit on other occasions as well. It does not mean always avoiding helping others but

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