Here's the real secret to educating respectful (and whimsical) children

Children are the mirror of ourselves, "sponges" ready to absorb any kind of attitude. This is why it is essential to set a good example for them.

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The magic phrase to get children some attention? "Do like me". Browse the book as I'm doing, keep the fork like me, mix those temperas as I'm mixing, hug me, cuddle me, tell me you're there, just like I do with you.





It seems little and instead the bulk of the work of a parent is just this: encourage your child to imitate him. In positive obvious.

Because it goes without saying that if everything mum and dad can do to raise an educated child is to shout his own "commands", that child will scream when he wants to get something for himself. If mom and dad mess around in chat instead of enjoying a free moment with him, he too will want to estrange himself from his non-world and in turn look for a smartphone or a video game. And all around, then, is silent waiting for the next fight.

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Children are the mirror of ourselves

Children are the mirror of ourselves. The imitation, sometimes even crippled and distorted, of who we are. Children, there is no escape, they do what they see. And psychology confirms, as well as several researches that have shown that, through the imitation of adults, the little ones begin their own personal growth and development process. And this happens above all through the observation of the parents.

And then, aware of the fact that children are "sponges", let's stop for a moment and evaluate how we behave when we are in the company of the little ones at home. The tone. Is it the sweet and affable one or the hard and stern one? THE gestures. Are they closing or loving and joyful? And driving, for example: are we nervous and we jump on who goes there if we don't like the one in front? And why do we pretend that when our little friend does not get something, our child is presumptuous or selfish?



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In short, boys and girls are capable of imitating everything - consciously and unconsciously - and sometimes they absolutely do not know the meaning of what they copy from the adult (pitfall!). It is they who they observe us and they repeat every single attitude or form of language seen or heard by the greatest, including grandparents and uncles. For them it is also a kind of personal satisfaction: for children, repeating the actions of adults is something that satisfies them and it makes them feel “great".

Here's the real secret to educating respectful (and whimsical) children

In his studies on the cognitive development of the newborn, the Swiss psychologist Jean Piaget he had observed how the little ones immediately learn to respond by imitation (If you cry, I cry. If you laugh, I laugh too) and as already around 2 months of life they manage to simulate gestures or facial expressions without even knowing their meaning.

The older the children get, the more they “refine” in imitation, giving meaning and distinguishing one gesture from another. "Imitating, I take my place in the environment", they say, and this means that for the little ones it is gratifying to repeat a gesture or a word, because "if mum and dad have done it or said it means that it is good and I will receive appreciation ".

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Set a good example to raise polite and respectful children

This is the first reasoning in childhood. Then there is a next step in which, mind free from naivety, children bring into play certain imitative attitudes, sometimes just as a challenge: realizing that a repeated gesture or word arouses negative reactions in the adult, they repeat them to attract attention. As if the parents' response were to be a good laugh.



So let's pay attention to how we relate to our children. As to make us tell our day, just tell them ours, so their eyes, heart and mind will be a book on which to write only good and beautiful things if our eyes, hearts and minds are free from abrupt behavior and out of place phrases. Sweet words and kind gestures, polite behavior and respect, a lot of respect, towards others - whether it is the younger brother or the old woman upstairs or the homeless man who begs for alms. Only by setting a good example will we raise educated adults who respect each other and the environment. And happy children.

Germana Carillo

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