8 phrases you should never say to a child

Being a parent is difficult but also relating to children in general can present some critical issues. Often, taken by the impulse and the moment of anger, we utter words we regret. So let's pay particular attention to 8 phrases that we should never say to a child.


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Being a parent is difficult but also relating to children in general can present some critical issues. Often, taken by the impulse and the moment of anger, we utter words we regret. So let us pay particular attention to 8 phrases we should never say to a child.




Parents are the people of support and guidance for the little ones, ideally mum and dad should be able to make their children feel safe, even when it is necessary to apply and respect the rules. However, since we are all human beings, the error is around the corner.

Particular attention must be paid to what we communicate to children considering that everything a parent does and how he does it becomes an integral part of their psyche. The way we talk to our children somehow transforms into their inner voice telling them what is right and what is wrong.

Those who are often angry and cold towards their children will probably get the result of seeing them being the same way while if you choose to approach them in a friendly way and motivating them you will be able to have a much better result.

Here are 8 sentences that you should never say to a child, regardless of how angry we are with him or what he has done:

Index

Stop crying right away

While there is no reason why your child is crying at a particular time, you shouldn't belittle him or make him feel guilty if he can't stop. Emotions cannot be controlled, and even children deserve to be allowed to feel what they feel. If not, they will learn that it is good to suppress emotions. Better then choose to say something like: "It's okay to cry but try to understand that what you did is wrong (or that if you stop now we have time to do something nice)".

I am disappointed in you

Parents say something like this to their children when they have gotten into trouble or done something wrong. In situations like this, however, instead of thinking about disappointment, it is good to help them find the right way to solve the problem. So try saying something like “What you did was wrong, let's talk about it ok? we find a solution".



You are not enough ...

Tell your child "You're not good enough, big enough, etc." assumes that something is missing. Saying this sentence is not a good idea. It is possible that if he listens to it too often, the child will grow up feeling that he is not "enough" for life in general. Try to turn the sentence around and say, "You are enough [something] but we can work harder to do better".

8 phrases you should never say to a child

Big kids are not afraid

This is a false statement, even the grown-ups are afraid. Saying a sentence like this does not protect your child in any way. If children are scared, you cannot stop their fear by telling them not to be afraid. Everyone feels this emotion sometimes, even you. Fears need to be faced instead of running away from them and this is what we should teach our children. Then alternatively say something like “It's okay to be afraid, sometimes everyone gets scared, but I know something that will help you“.

You're not worth anything

This is something you should never tell your kids. You are the person they seek approval the most from, they shouldn't be afraid of what you might think of them. That said, you're taking them on a journey of seeking approval from anyone and anywhere they can get it and that's hardly a good thing. Try saying something like "Nobody is perfect, next time you'll do better".

You are bad

You should never make your kids feel like they are "bad" in general. You should try to use phrases like, "What you did was wrong" because his action may not be as good as you would like, but that shouldn't make you think about your child evaluating him negatively overall. We all make mistakes, that doesn't mean we're bad people.



I do everything for you

It is obvious that parents do everything for him, her (or them): they are our children and it is normal! This shouldn't be a weapon to be used against children, after all they haven't chosen to be born.

You're fat

You should never emotionally break down your children with such a phrase. If your child is fat, he already knows it (and maybe there is even someone who teases him about it), and moreover it is most likely your fault that you did not give him a good nutrition education. Try saying something like, “I'm thinking about getting in shape, do you want to hit it off with me? I don't want to do it alone “.

In short, we have understood that we must pay attention to what we say to our children, loving them for who they are, encouraging them to improve and certainly not breaking them down or mortifying them with sentences that are too harsh or wrong.

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